tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post2172917749288322954..comments2012-11-03T18:08:37.414-07:00Comments on OMPHALOSKEPSIS: MOVING ONBe well. Be blessed. Bobbie!http://www.blogger.com/profile/10885186656334846050noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-38605808207941327442010-11-12T09:09:33.246-08:002010-11-12T09:09:33.246-08:00Wow, as I read this I felt the knots form in my st...Wow, as I read this I felt the knots form in my stomach. I stopped and asked myself why. I came to the startling realization that you just expressed what I have spent the last year and few months trying to surpress. Thank you for sharing this,for me you became a much needed reflection and inspiration.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00250800070922122419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-59013744959882765372010-11-09T13:20:35.007-08:002010-11-09T13:20:35.007-08:00Thank you for all of the wisdom and encouragement....Thank you for all of the wisdom and encouragement. I have found that releasing is a process. I have been blessed enough over the years to have wise teachers and role models, counselors and prayer partners and some beautiful ex partners to move past the ends of relationships. <br /><br />I have spent over a year in prayer, meditation and counseling assessing, releasing and forgiving. It was a tremendous gift to have. It is a process and I don't know that the vestiges of all of it ever completely go away. I am grateful for finding me after all of these years and loving me fully. It has been quite a journey back to self. I am grateful for all that I have encountered in this past relationship and all that I have learned about me because of it. At the end of the day, I AM Love expressed. I am beautiful strong and loving as I was made to be. Each day brings some new gift and I am grateful to receive it. <br /><br />With all of this is the understanding that the relationships we have with others leave lasting imprints. Those imprints do not define us, but they do add a measure of color to our lives. I see the world now through a different lens then I did before she was in my life and that is OK as long as I always remember it is I who does the looking and it is my vision of life which matters.Be well. Be blessed. Bobbie!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10885186656334846050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-65931847210910821662010-11-09T10:03:53.359-08:002010-11-09T10:03:53.359-08:00I understand the pain, the hurt, the emptiness of ...I understand the pain, the hurt, the emptiness of what was there, but you have to be strong enough in yourself to believe that "this to shall pass". Nothing hurts worst than being decieved and hopes shattered but faith and self love will push you past it. You have to love yourself so much until you can move forward. A lot of time we do not want to take a self assessment of ourselves to see what is truely the origin of the pain. Once we know ourselves I mean really know yourself you will be able to assess the breakup and learn what cause the pain. When you move to the next stage of your life you will know what you want to introduce into your life so that you can move to peace. Happiness comes through peace and you can only see that peace when you see yourself for who you will be happy with. It also helps you to move from self destructive behaviour. Do things that bring you joy, find people that make you feel good about yourself, ask God for discernment from those coming into your life. It is a process. I went through serious heartaches but learning and knowing myself, having faith in my God got me through... Much love my sis... MzVeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-76670228366469154372010-11-09T04:39:16.448-08:002010-11-09T04:39:16.448-08:00When the time comes that YOU REAllY want to let go...When the time comes that YOU REAllY want to let go and move on, you will.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-39096664559402613162010-11-09T01:55:32.456-08:002010-11-09T01:55:32.456-08:00Thank you for sharing that SiS!
And Thanks for the...Thank you for sharing that SiS!<br />And Thanks for the comments after, and Terri so concisely.<br />They're all words of healing and growth, a balm that I am so grateful to hear at this time.<br /><br />love and gratitudeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-2746288356956504632010-11-08T21:15:21.985-08:002010-11-08T21:15:21.985-08:00I hear you my sister and I've lived this besid...I hear you my sister and I've lived this beside you as well as before you. My faith keeps me moving in a forward direction. My love for myself keeps me grounded and consistently recovering.<br /><br />"As a mother comforts her chld, so I will comfort you." Isaiah 66:13Terri Holleyhttp://www.terriholley.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-50940651454775826692010-11-08T19:58:57.197-08:002010-11-08T19:58:57.197-08:00Bobbie
How very beautiful and moving! How DOES one...Bobbie<br />How very beautiful and moving! How DOES one move past the hurt? I find that letting go of the hurt and all other emotions associated with loss occurs as a rollercoaster and exists on the x/y coordinate. Your overall 'healing' occurs, however there are bumps and dips back into the wounds along the way. <br />I think, for me, it has not only been the lost deep intimacy, but the feeling inside my core that my last loss is somehow fated for me and I she. That is the hardest feeling/concept to allow to slip into the past and move on. Sometimes we have knowledge deep at the cellular level that the 'right' things worked in a relationship, but perhaps one thing/factor caused the demise. And we feel that could have been scaled. It does leave a feeling of deep loss and longing and regret that takes every sleepless night, journal entry and conversation with yourself to the point of insanity, to move through.<br />But, slowly, we shift. This would be the only way a past relationship would ever have a rennassiance anyway. If we both had grown and could clearly see where we each made mistakes.<br />I value what you say here so much, because moving past the 'feeling discarded' part is the worst in the world. We know better, but still it feels that way at times.<br />I find this following quote helpful at such times: “Don't Take Anything Personally. Our interpretation is rarely accurate. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz "The Four Agreements"<br />KatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-48705407805367058112010-11-08T16:18:36.762-08:002010-11-08T16:18:36.762-08:00Robin,
Wow, how timely is this article.It's as...Robin,<br />Wow, how timely is this article.It's as if we were sitting with each other at the kithchen table having some tea and pouring out our hearts to each other. Thanks for putting into words what I and countless others feel but dont have the courage to say or admit to themselves.<br />I appreciate the courage it took to write this and expose a painful but necessary part of life.<br />As Marvin Sapp says you are stronger, wiser and better for the experience. Go forth and recover all<br />Cheers<br />DeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3397542235953069732.post-5920781550342861052010-11-08T14:39:36.295-08:002010-11-08T14:39:36.295-08:00Perhaps the pain never really goes away, or maybe ...Perhaps the pain never really goes away, or maybe it's just the regret that never truly dissipates. In my own experience, I regret that a relationship was never given a chance to blossom but was instead clipped and allowed to wither before the bud began to open. I regret falling in love with the potential, the essence. I regret unrequited love.<br /><br />The balm, for me, is to remember the essence, the pure potential, and like emotional aromatherapy, infuse the regret with a promise of new healing potential elsewhere. The essence of Love is pure and healing, regardless of where our mental constructs, behaviors, beliefs, etc. take it. Infuse the pain / regret with that purity and it cannot be anything but uplifted, eased and eventually healed.<br /><br />Perhaps it isn't about letting go or moving on but more about transmuting, transformation. Before emerging as a butterfly, one must undergo the chrysalis stage, a complete restructuring on a cellular level. Nothing is added, nothing released and yet the entire Being is alchemically changed. When that happens, what once crawled upon the ground is now able to fly.<br /><br />Pain and regret have their uses and teach us valuable lessons. Without them we would not grow, we would not reach for the Light, we would not enter our own chrysalis stage to emerge and fly free.Deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13031683861359921242noreply@blogger.com